My mother's mother died at her birth in 1916 and her father died the next year. Her adoptive mother refused all overtures from the birth relatives (including offered photos

) Fortunately, one of the nurses who cared for her in her first 10 months before adoption saved the letters from family, so we knew my grandmother's' name, her parents names and the name of a sister; also my grandfather's name, profession and cause of death. Since my grandparents were not married and my grandfather had another family, my mother was hesitant to look too hard for her cousins and half-siblings, thinking that they might not be glad to know of her existence.
Somehow, one of my sisters started searching for clues on the internet. She had too many other things going on in her life to pursue it at that time, so I grabbed the baton and ran with it... It seemed to me utterly unfair that my mother at 86 years old had never even seen a picture of her parents. Someone out there must have one! So I began to trace the line down for living descendants of both her parents. I'll never forget the day my grandfather's face began to slowly download in my email program... and there were my brother's eyes staring out at me! I forwarded the photo to my parents-- my father printed it out and my mother sat there all day looking for the first time at her father's face...
Then I had to somehow find her mother... The story in the family had always been that I must look like her, since I don't look like anyone else! After finally tracking down a third cousin who reportedly had boxes of photos, I drove 800 miles and spent a long day blindly scanning them all into my computer. I knew that none of the labeled photos were my grandmother, but scanned all the unlabeled ones as well just in case. When I got home I showed my family the results, "Do you think any of these are likely?" and got disbelieving stares-- "Are you kidding? That one looks
exactly like you!" I held it up to the mirror and

there was my face and hair in a 1912 setting!
So yes, I'm completely hooked, no escape now...