The Missing Link

[david macdiarmid]

Hello,my name is David and this is one of my current "dilemma's".I am trying to link a "boyfriend/girlfriend",although this couple never married each other,they were a couple in the 1930's and again at the end of my "boy's"life in 1990.I think i have found my "girl's"birth in 1910 and her death in 1996,but although they married different partners,she was a witness to my "boy,s"death as being his "wife".His real wife died in 1985 and as he was born in 1906 i find it hard to understand him getting re-married.How is it possible to "link" my romeo and juliet? David

[AndrewP]

Hi David,

Sometime (hopefully soon) the modern marriage index will be available on ScotlandsPeople. That will give the marriages from 1933 to date (2006 or 2007 in the meantime). You can wait and see if this couple appear on that index. Then if they are there, you can decide whether or not to purchase an extract of that marriage certificate.

Other than that, you can go to New Register House, Edinburgh or Park Circus, Glasgow to see the certificate on-screen. There you can copy the details, or order a copy of the extract.

All the best,

AndrewP

[Hugo]

I know 'marriage by declaration' was recently made no longer legal (1920's, 1930's?) but they might have cared little for the niceties of the law.

It is not legal to drive at more than 30mph in a built-up zone. How many of us have ignored that?

Hugo

[joette]

Or they may have simply lived as husband & wife.

[winslowsmom]

Hello David

Sounds like a sweet story with a happy ending. Do you know it from one of them telling you or yours?

I’m afraid I can’t quite get a grip on your question though. Do you want to link them
on your computer family tree program?

Maybe they did get married, it being they grew up in a time when mores were somewhat different and they didn’t want to live in sin. Maybe they were very religous and wanted a blessing of their union.

I had a couple who were not married, she being devout catholic and divorced. But she was the informant on his death cert and called “intimate friend”. They were buried in the same plot, which is how I found out there was such a person, and there she was on his death cert!

As far as how to link them, I would just put each down as the other’s additional spouse, leave the date of marriage blank and describe the situation in the notes section.

But I do think it’s worth a marriage search. Sometimes old folks get starry eyed too.

Cathy H

[david macdiarmid]

Hi Cathy,I know it's been a while but i can update you now on my Romeo and Juliet.My bio-logical Father Marcel Charles Victor Dupre (name changed to Vic Russell).He had an ealy love in Kirkcaldy in Fife,she was the beautiful Margaret Brodie.As things work out in life they Married other partners and lived seperate lives.Vic Russell Married and lived in Edinburgh,turns out he was a bit of a lad,which is just as well or i would not be sitting here writing this tonight.His wife died in 1985 when they lived in the Borders.Juliet's i mean Margaret's husband died in 1983 and somehow this Romeo and Juliet must have kept in touch,because in 1987 they Married Vic was 81 years old and Margaret was 79.I never knew any of these people but the flame must have burned in their hearts for decades.That's how an old romantic,sees it anyway,Regards,David

[GeorgiaL]

Lovely story - would make a great movie!