Headstones

Morag · Post by **Morag** » Thu Oct 01, 2009 7:43 pm

Can anyone offer an expanation as to why a couple buried together , one having died in 1916 , and the other 1925 would not have a headstone ? They had 7 living children who were all comfortably off.
I recently visited the cemetery ( Camelon ) with a cousin from America and we were very disappointed to discover this as they were our last joint ancestors.
The staff were very helpful - I had already emailed to find where the grave was , and they sent a gravedigger with us to find the exact location. He was very thorough and went to a lot of effort to show us the burial spot. Apparently there was never a headstone.
It all seems a bit sad.

Morag

LesleyB · Post by **LesleyB** » Thu Oct 01, 2009 7:48 pm

Hi Morag
I have a similar situation in a branch of my family and can only assume that it was one of those things that people always meant to get around to, but sadly never did.

It is a huge disappointment when there is no stone, I do understand how you feel. Somehow, without the stone, your feel you can't quite get closure on the deaths. It still feels like unfinshed business.

(hmm...note to self...add codacil to will to ensure a blooming stone is erected come what may!!

)

Best wishes
Lesley

Post by **emanday** » Thu Oct 01, 2009 8:01 pm

One of my unmarried ancestors didn't get a headstone till 20 years after his demise. Family story was that his two sisters fell out over the wording, never spoke again, and it was one of their sons who finally got the thing done when he buried his mother in the plot!

I was only about 10 when the stone was erected, but was taken to see it being placed.

Post by **marilyn morning** » Thu Oct 01, 2009 8:24 pm

Lesley wrote

hmm...note to self...add codacil to will to ensure a blooming stone is erected come what may!! )

Better still purchase your own, plot, stone & heading before your demise. Case closed.....

Regards
Marilyn

WilmaM · Post by **WilmaM** » Thu Oct 01, 2009 8:25 pm

It's not an unusual occurance, my own Mother's grave is unmarked.
We had to wait a certain length of time before one could be erected [ground settling etc] and then I think my dad found it a bit much emotionaly and time has since worn on and on.....
After near 20 years I suppose it'll be left to me

On the other hand, many old stones were put up when the plot/lair was purchased and names or initals engraved even though the folks were still hale & hearty!

Morag · Post by **Morag** » Thu Oct 01, 2009 10:11 pm

Thanks for everyone's thoughts. It does seem a sad end to all the searchng that has been done.

Morag